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I can’t say anything to make you feel better, I feel the same way, just know you’re not alone. Cathy
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Whether the doctors label it as Crohns or something else, it still is a pain to feel like hell, isn’t it? I wish you the best of luck on feeling better and getting your life back. I know that when my doctor diagnosed me with "normal teen-age stress" instead of Crohn’s, I ended up living a rather altered life, thinking I was bringing all the hell on myself. This time now is annoying, but eventually it will get better. I promise. I know -=== I have spent about 200 days in the last 3 years in various hospitals, doctor offices, herb stores, massage therapies, etc., etc. And today, I only feel somewhat al-right, but trying to keep a good attitude does help me. I know you can make it. Hang in there
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Yeah, it sucks, but it gets better eventually. Chris
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Feel better now? You scared the daylights out of my Gerbil. Clyde can be very sensitive. Are there any other doctors in the area? Al and his Gerbil, Clyde
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Yes, I know exactly how you feel. I feel like I have been in my flare up for a year and a half. I have never had one full good day since then. I am on Asacol, 1200 mgs 3x/day, so now I use the bathroom 5-6 times a day. I still don’t feel comfortable going anywhere unless I know exactly where all the washrooms are. I still have alot of abdominal Hang in there, we all know exactly how you feel. Keep reading the posts on this newsgroup. I usually feel better when I read them all as it makes me realize there are alot of people out there that know what we are going through. I don’t know anyone else that has UC so when I come here (everyday) I feel better. Take Care and All the Best. Wanda
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Wow, I have been on medical leave since Feb. Trying differernt treatmentss, etc, and not readfy to go back to work, My RD is so supportive, but I live in a very small town and on days when I feel I can drive and do shopping, I invaribly run into people who know me in my job and since I happen to be able to walk that day and push a grocery cart they wonder why I am not at work. I feel weird, and some guilt, but I know that I can never explain to them the other days when I cannot walk, go to the bathroom by myself, and give my daughter the mothering she needs. Or the care that my husband needs, That they take care of me, in ways that I would never ask them to if I did not have this disease. Thank god that they love me so much and thank you all for this board. I could not hack it without. THANKS
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was "Oh, everybody has arthritis!", then proceeded to tell me that her back was bothering her. AAARRRRGGHH! Most people hear the word arthritis and think of all those people on TV commercials who are back to normal after popping a couple of pills. I really hate "minor arthritis pain". Most people don’t realize that there are many kinds of arthritis snip Anita
- my all time favorite is when i was a teenager with joint replacements in an electric chair in the hospital for month 5iive of PT and a fellow patient or visitor would ask "what is wrong with you dear?", and when i replied arthritis they would say," i know isn’t it awful, the dr said i can’t play golf for three weeks!". i always wanted to say ‘REALLY! I haven’t been able to wipe my ass for three years!" -kathleen
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this post started my dreary day with a chuckle. thanks. it’s funny how we can be so polite to people who make thoughtless remarks, when we really wanna hit ’em up side the head with a titanium joint. la
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Welcome back, drdoc! How was your trip out here to Sunny California? Hope you managed to squeeze in some vacation time, since we’ve had such beautiful weather in the last week or so. Did you learn anything new about arthritis? Evelyn (mother of Elena, who has JRA)
Thanks… I was there attending a cox-2 symposium – centering on celecoxib… Which im currently doing a study on.. It sounds like an advance that will be welcomed by many arthritis patients in the future. Next week i shall be back in the USA again on another conference.. in Washington DC ( The ACR) and … I shall be meeting Dr Susan Hoch there) However – this time it will be a 2 week trip…. so hold those personal emails to me between the 3rd – 16 Nov 1997. After that I will try catch up… Regards drdoc http://www.aztec.co.za/users/drdoc/
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I’ve found treating RA is a "crap shoot". One mix works fine for a while, and then suddenly doesn’t work anymore. And you start hunting for the right combination again. I know – I’ve had RA for approx. 20 years. I started taking the antibiotic therapy about a month or so ago, after I got on the internet, and read about it for the first time. I admit to being somewhat cynical about it, but I was also desperate. (Never desperate enough to try some of what I call snake oils, though) It’s working for me – or something is. Maybe a combination of everything I’m taking is finally kicking in, maybe it’s the power of suggestion, or maybe the RA just quieted down on its’ own for a while. I don’t care why, it just did. And do you suppose I’d get attacked if I say the methotrexate quit working for me? As did gold shots, and most of the NSAIDS. Ignore the attacks – they have no added value. Keep the faith, and keep truckin…. SharonH
Great news that the antibiotics work for you. The theory behind them makes sense, though I don’t think everyone’s arthritis has the same origin. It does make sense, though, that if the cause were related to an immune response to attack that antibiotics would work. That’s why I hung in there so long with them. I had a bad case of pneumonia the year before I was diagnosed. Perhaps the pneumonia was the trigger….oh, I can ramble. Anyway, it would also seem that since you are getting positive results from antibiotics you have closed in on the avenue for treatment. For some reason, it doesn’t sound like it would lose it’s effectiveness. Hope you are getting out to enjoy the beautiful fall weather. Feeling good and fresh air go together! Carol Human beings are flawed individuals…the cosmic bakers took us out a little too early. That’s why we’re as crazy as we are—Jimmy Buffett
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Today Elena was in tears. She had planned to do something after school with a friend, but didn’t get to because the mother of her friend wouldn’t give her a ride home from their house. She thought Elena should be able to walk, and that she’s a "nuisance with her arthritis." Poor Elena. All I could tell her is that I’m sorry some people are not nice, and really sorry that a grownup was not nice to her, but that she will run into them from time to time. It’s too bad it’s happening already. Evelyn (mother of Elena, who has JRA)
Thats why you can never have enough education of the public AND the doctors. Many people think its just an mild ache and pain that gets better with herbs and spices. Thinking of you all…. Regards drdoc
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Today Elena was in tears. She had planned to do something after school with a friend, but didn’t get to because the mother of her friend wouldn’t give her a ride home from their house. She thought Elena should be able to walk, and that she’s a "nuisance with her arthritis." Poor Elena. All I could tell her is that I’m sorry some people are not nice, and really sorry that a grownup was not nice to her, but that she will run into them from time to time. It’s too bad it’s happening already. Evelyn (mother of Elena, who has JRA)
That is soooo disgusting, I don’t understand how any "adult" can be that cruel to a child. She sure has a lot of "growing up" to do. I hope her daughter has more sense than her mother. I hope Elena feels better and realizes that there are a lot of selfish idiots in this world.
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It’s sad that you were attacked because you said the antibiotic didn’t work. If your attackers don’t know it yet, they will eventually – not everything works for everyone all the time. You know, it’s kind of like you can fool all of the people some of the time, you can fool some of the people all the time, but you can’t fool all the people all the time. Medications work the same way. I’ve found treating RA is a "crap shoot". One mix works fine for a while, and then suddenly doesn’t work anymore. And you start hunting for the right combination again. I know – I’ve had RA for approx. 20 years. I started taking the antibiotic therapy about a month or so ago, after I got on the internet, and read about it for the first time. I admit to being somewhat cynical about it, but I was also desperate. (Never desperate enough to try some of what I call snake oils, though) It’s working for me – or something is. Maybe a combination of everything I’m taking is finally kicking in, maybe it’s the power of suggestion, or maybe the RA just quieted down on its’ own for a while. I don’t care why, it just did. And do you suppose I’d get attacked if I say the methotrexate quit working for me? As did gold shots, and most of the NSAIDS. Ignore the attacks – they have no added value. Keep the faith, and keep truckin…. SharonH – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Thanks Ali, there seems to be a religious zeal concerning antibiotic therapy. About a year ago, I posted that it did not work for me. Wow! That really made some people angry, e-mailing me with rants about how I must have done something wrong…that I must have skipped doses or that the dose, itself, must have been off. Or that I hadn’t been on it long enough. This is the last place I’d expect to find a "blame the victim" mentality.
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Today Elena was in tears. She had planned to do something after school with a friend, but didn’t get to because the mother of her friend wouldn’t give her a ride home from their house. She thought Elena should be able to walk, and that she’s a "nuisance with her arthritis." Poor Elena. All I could tell her is that I’m sorry some people are not nice, and really sorry that a grownup was not nice to her, but that she will run into them from time to time. It’s too bad it’s happening already.
Hi, Evelyn! I am soooooo sorry to hear that Elena had to have this experience with an adult!!! I guess it only reflects the lack of understanding most of us meet in our daily lifes… Many people don’t have a clue about how much impact joint problems can have on our ability to e.g. walk or do other things. Many times it boils down to wheather or not people _listen_ to what you’re saying and then regard you as the best judge of your abilities. Obviously this woman is one of those people, which makes me agree with you – she isn’t nice!!! PS! Does the AF have any nice brochures telling about the problems JRA sufferers have, describing common difficulties with activities etc? Such brochures could be a nice thing to hand out to friends’ parents etc… Hope you’re doing better after you got "stabbed" the other day!!!
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Given all this new craze on the board about antibiotic therapy lately, I decided to ask my rheum about how his patients are doing. He says that he has not had all that much success with the therapy and has also found that over half of his patients who have been on the therapy for more than 6 months develop some type of rash, like a bruise in different areas on the body. He has found that this does not go away after therapy is stopped. He does continue to use the therapy with some patients who really want to try it or have tried everything else without success. I guess some of his pts. are successful on it, but the majority of his are not… I have read some of the articles on this therapy and I do think that it probably will begin to get more publicity in the future. I really would like to see some published studies about the negative affects of this med. It seems that there are only research from people who believe in its success. But before any therapy can really be accepted into the medical community, it must be subjected to many studies, looking at both its positive and negative affects, and then the benefits/side effects are weighed. I apologize if this note begins another huge debate on the board… but I figured that since I asked the rheum, I might as well share with you what his experience has been… —Ali life is what happens when you’re making other plans…
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Personally, I feel that the reason that most people have little real understanding of this disease is the they have simply failed to inform them.
Hi, Skipper! May I extend that one to _these_ diseases? I agree, most people don’t know a thing about the fact that there’s lots of different types of _inflammatory_ arthritis. Most people probably think about OA when they think of arthritis, or the good ol’ rheumatism (whatever that really is) … — Best regards, Visit my homepage: Med vennlig hilsen, <URL:http://home.newmedia.no/flaker/ _Aase Marit_
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Today Elena was in tears. She had planned to do something after school with a friend, but didn’t get to because the mother of her friend wouldn’t give her a ride home from their house. She thought Elena should be able to walk, and that she’s a "nuisance with her arthritis." Poor Elena. All I could tell her is that I’m sorry some people are not nice, and really sorry that a grownup was not nice to her, but that she will run into them from time to time. It’s too bad it’s happening already. Evelyn (mother of Elena, who has JRA)
How awful! It’s bad enough for us adults to deal with stupidity, but it must be awful for a child. You sound like you handled the situation well. I’d be inclined to give that person an earful! Anita —
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Today Elena was in tears. She had planned to do something after school with a friend, but didn’t get to because the mother of her friend wouldn’t give her a ride home from their house. She thought Elena should be able to walk, and that she’s a "nuisance with her arthritis." Poor Elena. All I could tell her is that I’m sorry some people are not nice, and really sorry that a grownup was not nice to her, but that she will run into them from time to time. It’s too bad it’s happening already. Evelyn (mother of Elena, who has JRA)
I was so upset to hear of your daughter’s experience. You expect children to be ignorant of situations like this but not their parents. I don’t know how strongly you feel about it but I would clue this woman in so that your daughter will at least know she has been informed and if she acts poorly in the future then it is not ignorance but lack of compassion. You are right to tell her she will find people like this from time to time. Keep up the good work mom. Catherine "And the beat goes on."
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There is one sure thing that I learned from this disease. The only people who understand what it feels like to have this disease are those afflicted with it. I’ve stopped trying to explain my pain and frustration with the disease to others. They don’t care! I truly understand how you feel. I know it’s hard, but don’t let it get to you.
Please don’t assume everyone doesn’t want to understand. I have been reading this group for over a year now since my sister-in-law found it. She has had JRA for about 12 years, I think. I like to think that I am sensitive to what she has to deal with. I also have learned some things reading this group – like how much pain a handshake can cause. I think she has learned about things I have dealt with, by me sharing them with her. Arthritis definitely is a misunderstood disease among those who don’t have it or haven’t lived with a person close to them who has it, but I wouldn’t assume it is because no one cares. Like someone said, it is associated with older people and there are so many problems associated with old age that it is overwhelming and hard to focus on. When I explain to someone that my sister-in-law has arthritis and how debilitating it is, they are sympathetic. When I talk about my grandfather who has Alzheimers and doesn’t recognize my grandmother much (let alone me or my mother!), it is a different story. Right or not, until people stop associating arthritis with old age, people will likely assume that your stiffness will go away in a few days and there is little pain. I, for one, will always be interested to hear about a new disease and the effects, if anyone is interested in sharing them. The more I understand what people are dealing with, the easier it makes it for me to accept a mean comment, bad attitide, or the like. But I still think we all deserve the right to complain about what we are going through. You can always find someone who is going through something worse than you. Must I always be strong about my pain just because there is someone else in the world who has worse pain? (Physical or emotional) Usually when you vent, you don’t want to hear an explanation. The venting gets you through it all by itself. But, here is my take on that person. She was either having a medical problem or was with someone who did. When she saw you, it made her even more sad. When you explained that it was arthritis, she innocently assumed it was, as someone pointed out, just the temporary pain you hear about on commercials. She was relieved to not have to face anymore pain that day, and made the comment as a way of saying to herself that it wasn’t serious…then again, she could be a self-absorbed spoiled creep! Take care. Amy
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Evelyn, I am so sorry to hear that your daughter has to endure such emotional pain as well has her physical pain. Such a response from a so-called adult is inexcusable! And people say that *children* are cruel? Janet – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Today Elena was in tears. She had planned to do something after school with a friend, but didn’t get to because the mother of her friend wouldn’t give her a ride home from their house. She thought Elena should be able to walk, and that she’s a "nuisance with her arthritis." Poor Elena. All I could tell her is that I’m sorry some people are not nice, and really sorry that a grownup was not nice to her, but that she will run into them from time to time. It’s too bad it’s happening already. Evelyn (mother of Elena, who has JRA)
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Hi All, I get sooo steamed at this type of ignorance!!! Agree or not i’m with Krissy.Sorry, i even laughed at an imagine of her beating her with her splints.. I feel better…(ha ha) Thanks Krissy. Rachel
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Eldridge-Diaz) writes: Today Elena was in tears. She had planned to do something after school with a friend, but didn’t get to because the mother of her friend wouldn’t give her a ride home from their house. She thought Elena should be able to walk, and that she’s a "nuisance with her arthritis." Poor Elena. All I could tell her is that I’m sorry some people are not nice, and really sorry that a grownup was not nice to her, but that she will run into them from time to time. It’s too bad it’s happening already. Evelyn (mother of Elena, who has JRA)
Let’s form a posse and track this woman down. As adults, we have much greater control over our environments than children do and it just fries me to see children victimized in such a way. In our own communities, there are children who do not have the good fortune to have you for a mother. They are out there with the disadvantages of these disabilities. Rather than just expressing rage over the injustices, many of us have the expertise of experience to be advocates for these children, even on a volunteer basis. Giving brings sense to so much of this loss. It brings joy, purpose and an energy that can move beyond the fatigue of these diseases. Carol Human beings are flawed individuals…the cosmic bakers took us out a little too early. That’s why we’re as crazy as we are—Jimmy Buffett
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Those commercials really make me grind my teeth. I have wondered if there isn’t something that could be done about them. I think they are dangerous, and are at least partially responsable for a lot of people not getting treatment in the early stages. They are disseminating misleading information to an ill informed public. I, for one, used lots of over the counter Motrin for a couple of years. Eventually, I got to a point where I was taking literally handfuls of the stuff; 8 every 4 hours. I didn’t know what else to do. At that point, I didn’t know anything about arthritis. I thought it was something old people got and was a natural part of the aging process. I had no idea that it was a disease and that people went to the doctor for it. I blame the drug manufaturers for a part of that. I also blame the Arthritis Foundation. Personally, I feel that the reason that most people have little real understanding of this disease is the they have simply failed to inform them. Where are the public service advertisment spots on tv? Where are the bus signs? WHERE’S THE ARTHRITIS TELETHON?? One of the things that my wife and I have said we are going to do if I ever get to a point where I have more energy is become involved in finding ways to inform the public about this disease. At this point, I think we either need to get the Arthritis Foundation to make public education a higher priority, or we need to start another organization that has arthritis education as it’s goal. Oh ya, and while we’re at it, maybe we can get those Aleve ads reworded, too. That way I won’t have to grind my teeth when I watch ER. —– The Skipper – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Most people hear the word arthritis and think of all those people on TV commercials who are back to normal after popping a couple of pills. I really hate "minor arthritis pain". Most people don’t realize that there are many kinds of arthritis and that they can be incredibly debilitating. It’s awful to say this, but I almost wish that there were some famous celebrity (other than OJ) who had "major arthritis pain" like many of us here. It would at least raise awareness of this disease among the general populace. But, I don’t wish this kind of pain on anyone. Anita
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Today Elena was in tears. She had planned to do something after school with a friend, but didn’t get to because the mother of her friend wouldn’t give her a ride home from their house. She thought Elena should be able to walk, and that she’s a "nuisance with her arthritis." Poor Elena. All I could tell her is that I’m sorry some people are not nice, and really sorry that a grownup was not nice to her, but that she will run into them from time to time. It’s too bad it’s happening already. Evelyn (mother of Elena, who has JRA)
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was "Oh, everybody has arthritis!", then proceeded to tell me that her back was bothering her. AAARRRRGGHH! Now now. The lady’s back probably *was* bothering her. The "everybody has arthritis" is clearly inaccurate, but it does raise an interesting perceptual quirk – that peoples’ own sufferings are bigger in their minds than yours are. Unfortunate, but it is *their* perspective.
Most people hear the word arthritis and think of all those people on TV commercials who are back to normal after popping a couple of pills. I really hate "minor arthritis pain". Most people don’t realize that there are many kinds of arthritis and that they can be incredibly debilitating. It’s awful to say this, but I almost wish that there were some famous celebrity (other than OJ) who had "major arthritis pain" like many of us here. It would at least raise awareness of this disease among the general populace. But, I don’t wish this kind of pain on anyone. Anita —
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"zzub,zzub. MIAAAAAAAAAOW. Crunch….munch." 2. Why is your pain always insignificant and their the end of the world?
Am familiar with this one. I suppose to them it *does* really really hurt, but I get tired of people telling me their shoulder hurts too when this is because they have carried bags home or moved the furniture, or played squash four times a week, and it’ll be better soon! Besides which, that is NOT shiulder and neck pain. Shoulder and neck pain is when you can’t lie on your back because it’s too tender and you can’t lie on your front because then your arms have to go somewhere and that hurts. I take two tylex, hot milk and then lie with the sore bit on my hot water bottle. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text –
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Hi, gang. I know this topic has been done, probably to death, before, but I am so annoyed right now I could punch something (if I could make a fist, that is). I am still active duty Military and I bumped into an old "friend" at the hospital clinics today who asked me "What are you doing here?" I told her I am seeing a Rheumatologist for RA, and her every-so-thoughtful reply was "Oh, everybody has arthritis!", then proceeded to tell me that her back was bothering her. AAARRRRGGHH! The questions that came to mind as I walked slowly to my car are: 1. Why do people ask questions they don’t care to hear the answers to? 2. Why is your pain always insignificant and their the end of the world? 3. Why do I give a damn what someone like that thinks or says, anyway? (We were never that close). 4. Was she hoping I’d say something obviously dreadful, like cancer? Thanks for listening. Janet
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I know this topic has been done, probably to death, before,
Ahem. This is Usenet. Here there are no dead horses badly enough decomposed to deter even another moment of abuse. but I am so annoyed right now I could punch something (if I could make a fist, that is). I am still active duty Military and I bumped into an old "friend" at the hospital clinics today who asked me "What are you doing here?" I told her I am seeing a Rheumatologist for RA, and her every-so-thoughtful reply was "Oh, everybody has arthritis!", then proceeded to tell me that her back was bothering her. AAARRRRGGHH!
Now now. The lady’s back probably *was* bothering her. The "everybody has arthritis" is clearly inaccurate, but it does raise an interesting perceptual quirk – that peoples’ own sufferings are bigger in their minds than yours are. Unfortunate, but it is *their* perspective. The questions that came to mind as I walked slowly to my car are: 1. Why do people ask questions they don’t care to hear the answers to?
I dunno. Why did you just ask that one? IMO most people ask just because it’s the polite thing to do – but even if you supply them with full gory details there’s still nothing much they can do. It’s a tricky tightrope balancing between sympathy and pity. There’s also the consideration that since this women was hanging around in the hospital she might have been a little too nervous about her own condition to really devote her full attention to you. Sometimes when people are trying their hardest to conceal their fear on the outside, you can guess that they’re also probably struggling to conceal their fear on the inside too. 2. Why is your pain always insignificant and their the end of the world?
Well, unlike our president, most people cannot "feel your pain". IMO it’s not even a particularly gracious thing to do to try to regale non-medical passers-by with descriptions of how bad it really is. If they can’t do anything for you except pity you then why bother? 3. Why do I give a damn what someone like that thinks or says, anyway? (We were never that close).
That’s a pretty good question. My boss was unsympathetic earlier this week on the subject of why I’m so far behind, and I have to admit that his wisecracks really bugged me. Of course between my flaring joints, a bout of flu, and an old feline friend who had to be put to sleep on Monday I confess I didn’t have any more sympathy for him than he had for me. His comment that really got my goat was when he asked me "Do you like your job?" If I didn’t like my job then I wouldn’t still be in it after 7 years. The truth is I do love my job. The thing I hate is his stinking attitude. 4. Was she hoping I’d say something obviously dreadful, like cancer?
I doubt she was hoping that. I heard somewhere that when you’re given the choice of assuming someone’s motives are based in ignorance or malice, ignorance is almost always the more credible alternative. I shouldn’t make apologies for that lady, but I strongly suspect that she just didn’t understand how her words were going to affect you. — Nathan Engle Electron Juggler Indiana University Dept of Psychology "Some Assembly Required"
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Wow, I have been on medical leave since Feb. Trying differernt treatmentss, etc, and not readfy to go back to work, My RD is so supportive, but I live in a very small town and on days when I feel I can drive and do shopping, I invaribly run into people who know me in my job and since I happen to be able to walk that day and push a grocery cart they wonder why I am not at work. I feel weird, and some guilt, but I know that I can never explain to them the other days when I cannot walk, go to the bathroom by myself, and give my daughter the mothering she needs. Or the care that my husband needs, That they take care of me, in ways that I would never ask them to if I did not have this disease. Thank god that they love me so much and thank you all for this board. I could not hack it without. THANKS
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was "Oh, everybody has arthritis!", then proceeded to tell me that her back was bothering her. AAARRRRGGHH! Most people hear the word arthritis and think of all those people on TV commercials who are back to normal after popping a couple of pills. I really hate "minor arthritis pain". Most people don’t realize that there are many kinds of arthritis snip Anita
- my all time favorite is when i was a teenager with joint replacements in an electric chair in the hospital for month 5iive of PT and a fellow patient or visitor would ask "what is wrong with you dear?", and when i replied arthritis they would say," i know isn’t it awful, the dr said i can’t play golf for three weeks!". i always wanted to say ‘REALLY! I haven’t been able to wipe my ass for three years!" -kathleen
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this post started my dreary day with a chuckle. thanks. it’s funny how we can be so polite to people who make thoughtless remarks, when we really wanna hit ’em up side the head with a titanium joint. la
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Welcome back, drdoc! How was your trip out here to Sunny California? Hope you managed to squeeze in some vacation time, since we’ve had such beautiful weather in the last week or so. Did you learn anything new about arthritis? Evelyn (mother of Elena, who has JRA)
Thanks… I was there attending a cox-2 symposium – centering on celecoxib… Which im currently doing a study on.. It sounds like an advance that will be welcomed by many arthritis patients in the future. Next week i shall be back in the USA again on another conference.. in Washington DC ( The ACR) and … I shall be meeting Dr Susan Hoch there) However – this time it will be a 2 week trip…. so hold those personal emails to me between the 3rd – 16 Nov 1997. After that I will try catch up… Regards drdoc http://www.aztec.co.za/users/drdoc/
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I’ve found treating RA is a "crap shoot". One mix works fine for a while, and then suddenly doesn’t work anymore. And you start hunting for the right combination again. I know – I’ve had RA for approx. 20 years. I started taking the antibiotic therapy about a month or so ago, after I got on the internet, and read about it for the first time. I admit to being somewhat cynical about it, but I was also desperate. (Never desperate enough to try some of what I call snake oils, though) It’s working for me – or something is. Maybe a combination of everything I’m taking is finally kicking in, maybe it’s the power of suggestion, or maybe the RA just quieted down on its’ own for a while. I don’t care why, it just did. And do you suppose I’d get attacked if I say the methotrexate quit working for me? As did gold shots, and most of the NSAIDS. Ignore the attacks – they have no added value. Keep the faith, and keep truckin…. SharonH
Great news that the antibiotics work for you. The theory behind them makes sense, though I don’t think everyone’s arthritis has the same origin. It does make sense, though, that if the cause were related to an immune response to attack that antibiotics would work. That’s why I hung in there so long with them. I had a bad case of pneumonia the year before I was diagnosed. Perhaps the pneumonia was the trigger….oh, I can ramble. Anyway, it would also seem that since you are getting positive results from antibiotics you have closed in on the avenue for treatment. For some reason, it doesn’t sound like it would lose it’s effectiveness. Hope you are getting out to enjoy the beautiful fall weather. Feeling good and fresh air go together! Carol Human beings are flawed individuals…the cosmic bakers took us out a little too early. That’s why we’re as crazy as we are—Jimmy Buffett
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Today Elena was in tears. She had planned to do something after school with a friend, but didn’t get to because the mother of her friend wouldn’t give her a ride home from their house. She thought Elena should be able to walk, and that she’s a "nuisance with her arthritis." Poor Elena. All I could tell her is that I’m sorry some people are not nice, and really sorry that a grownup was not nice to her, but that she will run into them from time to time. It’s too bad it’s happening already. Evelyn (mother of Elena, who has JRA)
Thats why you can never have enough education of the public AND the doctors. Many people think its just an mild ache and pain that gets better with herbs and spices. Thinking of you all…. Regards drdoc
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Today Elena was in tears. She had planned to do something after school with a friend, but didn’t get to because the mother of her friend wouldn’t give her a ride home from their house. She thought Elena should be able to walk, and that she’s a "nuisance with her arthritis." Poor Elena. All I could tell her is that I’m sorry some people are not nice, and really sorry that a grownup was not nice to her, but that she will run into them from time to time. It’s too bad it’s happening already. Evelyn (mother of Elena, who has JRA)
That is soooo disgusting, I don’t understand how any "adult" can be that cruel to a child. She sure has a lot of "growing up" to do. I hope her daughter has more sense than her mother. I hope Elena feels better and realizes that there are a lot of selfish idiots in this world.
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It’s sad that you were attacked because you said the antibiotic didn’t work. If your attackers don’t know it yet, they will eventually – not everything works for everyone all the time. You know, it’s kind of like you can fool all of the people some of the time, you can fool some of the people all the time, but you can’t fool all the people all the time. Medications work the same way. I’ve found treating RA is a "crap shoot". One mix works fine for a while, and then suddenly doesn’t work anymore. And you start hunting for the right combination again. I know – I’ve had RA for approx. 20 years. I started taking the antibiotic therapy about a month or so ago, after I got on the internet, and read about it for the first time. I admit to being somewhat cynical about it, but I was also desperate. (Never desperate enough to try some of what I call snake oils, though) It’s working for me – or something is. Maybe a combination of everything I’m taking is finally kicking in, maybe it’s the power of suggestion, or maybe the RA just quieted down on its’ own for a while. I don’t care why, it just did. And do you suppose I’d get attacked if I say the methotrexate quit working for me? As did gold shots, and most of the NSAIDS. Ignore the attacks – they have no added value. Keep the faith, and keep truckin…. SharonH – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Thanks Ali, there seems to be a religious zeal concerning antibiotic therapy. About a year ago, I posted that it did not work for me. Wow! That really made some people angry, e-mailing me with rants about how I must have done something wrong…that I must have skipped doses or that the dose, itself, must have been off. Or that I hadn’t been on it long enough. This is the last place I’d expect to find a "blame the victim" mentality.
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Today Elena was in tears. She had planned to do something after school with a friend, but didn’t get to because the mother of her friend wouldn’t give her a ride home from their house. She thought Elena should be able to walk, and that she’s a "nuisance with her arthritis." Poor Elena. All I could tell her is that I’m sorry some people are not nice, and really sorry that a grownup was not nice to her, but that she will run into them from time to time. It’s too bad it’s happening already.
Hi, Evelyn! I am soooooo sorry to hear that Elena had to have this experience with an adult!!! I guess it only reflects the lack of understanding most of us meet in our daily lifes… Many people don’t have a clue about how much impact joint problems can have on our ability to e.g. walk or do other things. Many times it boils down to wheather or not people _listen_ to what you’re saying and then regard you as the best judge of your abilities. Obviously this woman is one of those people, which makes me agree with you – she isn’t nice!!! PS! Does the AF have any nice brochures telling about the problems JRA sufferers have, describing common difficulties with activities etc? Such brochures could be a nice thing to hand out to friends’ parents etc… Hope you’re doing better after you got "stabbed" the other day!!!
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Given all this new craze on the board about antibiotic therapy lately, I decided to ask my rheum about how his patients are doing. He says that he has not had all that much success with the therapy and has also found that over half of his patients who have been on the therapy for more than 6 months develop some type of rash, like a bruise in different areas on the body. He has found that this does not go away after therapy is stopped. He does continue to use the therapy with some patients who really want to try it or have tried everything else without success. I guess some of his pts. are successful on it, but the majority of his are not… I have read some of the articles on this therapy and I do think that it probably will begin to get more publicity in the future. I really would like to see some published studies about the negative affects of this med. It seems that there are only research from people who believe in its success. But before any therapy can really be accepted into the medical community, it must be subjected to many studies, looking at both its positive and negative affects, and then the benefits/side effects are weighed. I apologize if this note begins another huge debate on the board… but I figured that since I asked the rheum, I might as well share with you what his experience has been… —Ali life is what happens when you’re making other plans…
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Personally, I feel that the reason that most people have little real understanding of this disease is the they have simply failed to inform them.
Hi, Skipper! May I extend that one to _these_ diseases? I agree, most people don’t know a thing about the fact that there’s lots of different types of _inflammatory_ arthritis. Most people probably think about OA when they think of arthritis, or the good ol’ rheumatism (whatever that really is) … — Best regards, Visit my homepage: Med vennlig hilsen, <URL:http://home.newmedia.no/flaker/ _Aase Marit_
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Today Elena was in tears. She had planned to do something after school with a friend, but didn’t get to because the mother of her friend wouldn’t give her a ride home from their house. She thought Elena should be able to walk, and that she’s a "nuisance with her arthritis." Poor Elena. All I could tell her is that I’m sorry some people are not nice, and really sorry that a grownup was not nice to her, but that she will run into them from time to time. It’s too bad it’s happening already. Evelyn (mother of Elena, who has JRA)
How awful! It’s bad enough for us adults to deal with stupidity, but it must be awful for a child. You sound like you handled the situation well. I’d be inclined to give that person an earful! Anita —
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Today Elena was in tears. She had planned to do something after school with a friend, but didn’t get to because the mother of her friend wouldn’t give her a ride home from their house. She thought Elena should be able to walk, and that she’s a "nuisance with her arthritis." Poor Elena. All I could tell her is that I’m sorry some people are not nice, and really sorry that a grownup was not nice to her, but that she will run into them from time to time. It’s too bad it’s happening already. Evelyn (mother of Elena, who has JRA)
I was so upset to hear of your daughter’s experience. You expect children to be ignorant of situations like this but not their parents. I don’t know how strongly you feel about it but I would clue this woman in so that your daughter will at least know she has been informed and if she acts poorly in the future then it is not ignorance but lack of compassion. You are right to tell her she will find people like this from time to time. Keep up the good work mom. Catherine "And the beat goes on."
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There is one sure thing that I learned from this disease. The only people who understand what it feels like to have this disease are those afflicted with it. I’ve stopped trying to explain my pain and frustration with the disease to others. They don’t care! I truly understand how you feel. I know it’s hard, but don’t let it get to you.
Please don’t assume everyone doesn’t want to understand. I have been reading this group for over a year now since my sister-in-law found it. She has had JRA for about 12 years, I think. I like to think that I am sensitive to what she has to deal with. I also have learned some things reading this group – like how much pain a handshake can cause. I think she has learned about things I have dealt with, by me sharing them with her. Arthritis definitely is a misunderstood disease among those who don’t have it or haven’t lived with a person close to them who has it, but I wouldn’t assume it is because no one cares. Like someone said, it is associated with older people and there are so many problems associated with old age that it is overwhelming and hard to focus on. When I explain to someone that my sister-in-law has arthritis and how debilitating it is, they are sympathetic. When I talk about my grandfather who has Alzheimers and doesn’t recognize my grandmother much (let alone me or my mother!), it is a different story. Right or not, until people stop associating arthritis with old age, people will likely assume that your stiffness will go away in a few days and there is little pain. I, for one, will always be interested to hear about a new disease and the effects, if anyone is interested in sharing them. The more I understand what people are dealing with, the easier it makes it for me to accept a mean comment, bad attitide, or the like. But I still think we all deserve the right to complain about what we are going through. You can always find someone who is going through something worse than you. Must I always be strong about my pain just because there is someone else in the world who has worse pain? (Physical or emotional) Usually when you vent, you don’t want to hear an explanation. The venting gets you through it all by itself. But, here is my take on that person. She was either having a medical problem or was with someone who did. When she saw you, it made her even more sad. When you explained that it was arthritis, she innocently assumed it was, as someone pointed out, just the temporary pain you hear about on commercials. She was relieved to not have to face anymore pain that day, and made the comment as a way of saying to herself that it wasn’t serious…then again, she could be a self-absorbed spoiled creep! Take care. Amy
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Evelyn, I am so sorry to hear that your daughter has to endure such emotional pain as well has her physical pain. Such a response from a so-called adult is inexcusable! And people say that *children* are cruel? Janet – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Today Elena was in tears. She had planned to do something after school with a friend, but didn’t get to because the mother of her friend wouldn’t give her a ride home from their house. She thought Elena should be able to walk, and that she’s a "nuisance with her arthritis." Poor Elena. All I could tell her is that I’m sorry some people are not nice, and really sorry that a grownup was not nice to her, but that she will run into them from time to time. It’s too bad it’s happening already. Evelyn (mother of Elena, who has JRA)
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Hi All, I get sooo steamed at this type of ignorance!!! Agree or not i’m with Krissy.Sorry, i even laughed at an imagine of her beating her with her splints.. I feel better…(ha ha) Thanks Krissy. Rachel
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Eldridge-Diaz) writes: Today Elena was in tears. She had planned to do something after school with a friend, but didn’t get to because the mother of her friend wouldn’t give her a ride home from their house. She thought Elena should be able to walk, and that she’s a "nuisance with her arthritis." Poor Elena. All I could tell her is that I’m sorry some people are not nice, and really sorry that a grownup was not nice to her, but that she will run into them from time to time. It’s too bad it’s happening already. Evelyn (mother of Elena, who has JRA)
Let’s form a posse and track this woman down. As adults, we have much greater control over our environments than children do and it just fries me to see children victimized in such a way. In our own communities, there are children who do not have the good fortune to have you for a mother. They are out there with the disadvantages of these disabilities. Rather than just expressing rage over the injustices, many of us have the expertise of experience to be advocates for these children, even on a volunteer basis. Giving brings sense to so much of this loss. It brings joy, purpose and an energy that can move beyond the fatigue of these diseases. Carol Human beings are flawed individuals…the cosmic bakers took us out a little too early. That’s why we’re as crazy as we are—Jimmy Buffett
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Those commercials really make me grind my teeth. I have wondered if there isn’t something that could be done about them. I think they are dangerous, and are at least partially responsable for a lot of people not getting treatment in the early stages. They are disseminating misleading information to an ill informed public. I, for one, used lots of over the counter Motrin for a couple of years. Eventually, I got to a point where I was taking literally handfuls of the stuff; 8 every 4 hours. I didn’t know what else to do. At that point, I didn’t know anything about arthritis. I thought it was something old people got and was a natural part of the aging process. I had no idea that it was a disease and that people went to the doctor for it. I blame the drug manufaturers for a part of that. I also blame the Arthritis Foundation. Personally, I feel that the reason that most people have little real understanding of this disease is the they have simply failed to inform them. Where are the public service advertisment spots on tv? Where are the bus signs? WHERE’S THE ARTHRITIS TELETHON?? One of the things that my wife and I have said we are going to do if I ever get to a point where I have more energy is become involved in finding ways to inform the public about this disease. At this point, I think we either need to get the Arthritis Foundation to make public education a higher priority, or we need to start another organization that has arthritis education as it’s goal. Oh ya, and while we’re at it, maybe we can get those Aleve ads reworded, too. That way I won’t have to grind my teeth when I watch ER. —– The Skipper – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Most people hear the word arthritis and think of all those people on TV commercials who are back to normal after popping a couple of pills. I really hate "minor arthritis pain". Most people don’t realize that there are many kinds of arthritis and that they can be incredibly debilitating. It’s awful to say this, but I almost wish that there were some famous celebrity (other than OJ) who had "major arthritis pain" like many of us here. It would at least raise awareness of this disease among the general populace. But, I don’t wish this kind of pain on anyone. Anita
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Today Elena was in tears. She had planned to do something after school with a friend, but didn’t get to because the mother of her friend wouldn’t give her a ride home from their house. She thought Elena should be able to walk, and that she’s a "nuisance with her arthritis." Poor Elena. All I could tell her is that I’m sorry some people are not nice, and really sorry that a grownup was not nice to her, but that she will run into them from time to time. It’s too bad it’s happening already. Evelyn (mother of Elena, who has JRA)
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was "Oh, everybody has arthritis!", then proceeded to tell me that her back was bothering her. AAARRRRGGHH! Now now. The lady’s back probably *was* bothering her. The "everybody has arthritis" is clearly inaccurate, but it does raise an interesting perceptual quirk – that peoples’ own sufferings are bigger in their minds than yours are. Unfortunate, but it is *their* perspective.
Most people hear the word arthritis and think of all those people on TV commercials who are back to normal after popping a couple of pills. I really hate "minor arthritis pain". Most people don’t realize that there are many kinds of arthritis and that they can be incredibly debilitating. It’s awful to say this, but I almost wish that there were some famous celebrity (other than OJ) who had "major arthritis pain" like many of us here. It would at least raise awareness of this disease among the general populace. But, I don’t wish this kind of pain on anyone. Anita —
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"zzub,zzub. MIAAAAAAAAAOW. Crunch….munch." 2. Why is your pain always insignificant and their the end of the world?
Am familiar with this one. I suppose to them it *does* really really hurt, but I get tired of people telling me their shoulder hurts too when this is because they have carried bags home or moved the furniture, or played squash four times a week, and it’ll be better soon! Besides which, that is NOT shiulder and neck pain. Shoulder and neck pain is when you can’t lie on your back because it’s too tender and you can’t lie on your front because then your arms have to go somewhere and that hurts. I take two tylex, hot milk and then lie with the sore bit on my hot water bottle. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text –
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Hi, gang. I know this topic has been done, probably to death, before, but I am so annoyed right now I could punch something (if I could make a fist, that is). I am still active duty Military and I bumped into an old "friend" at the hospital clinics today who asked me "What are you doing here?" I told her I am seeing a Rheumatologist for RA, and her every-so-thoughtful reply was "Oh, everybody has arthritis!", then proceeded to tell me that her back was bothering her. AAARRRRGGHH! The questions that came to mind as I walked slowly to my car are: 1. Why do people ask questions they don’t care to hear the answers to? 2. Why is your pain always insignificant and their the end of the world? 3. Why do I give a damn what someone like that thinks or says, anyway? (We were never that close). 4. Was she hoping I’d say something obviously dreadful, like cancer? Thanks for listening. Janet
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I know this topic has been done, probably to death, before,
Ahem. This is Usenet. Here there are no dead horses badly enough decomposed to deter even another moment of abuse. but I am so annoyed right now I could punch something (if I could make a fist, that is). I am still active duty Military and I bumped into an old "friend" at the hospital clinics today who asked me "What are you doing here?" I told her I am seeing a Rheumatologist for RA, and her every-so-thoughtful reply was "Oh, everybody has arthritis!", then proceeded to tell me that her back was bothering her. AAARRRRGGHH!
Now now. The lady’s back probably *was* bothering her. The "everybody has arthritis" is clearly inaccurate, but it does raise an interesting perceptual quirk – that peoples’ own sufferings are bigger in their minds than yours are. Unfortunate, but it is *their* perspective. The questions that came to mind as I walked slowly to my car are: 1. Why do people ask questions they don’t care to hear the answers to?
I dunno. Why did you just ask that one? IMO most people ask just because it’s the polite thing to do – but even if you supply them with full gory details there’s still nothing much they can do. It’s a tricky tightrope balancing between sympathy and pity. There’s also the consideration that since this women was hanging around in the hospital she might have been a little too nervous about her own condition to really devote her full attention to you. Sometimes when people are trying their hardest to conceal their fear on the outside, you can guess that they’re also probably struggling to conceal their fear on the inside too. 2. Why is your pain always insignificant and their the end of the world?
Well, unlike our president, most people cannot "feel your pain". IMO it’s not even a particularly gracious thing to do to try to regale non-medical passers-by with descriptions of how bad it really is. If they can’t do anything for you except pity you then why bother? 3. Why do I give a damn what someone like that thinks or says, anyway? (We were never that close).
That’s a pretty good question. My boss was unsympathetic earlier this week on the subject of why I’m so far behind, and I have to admit that his wisecracks really bugged me. Of course between my flaring joints, a bout of flu, and an old feline friend who had to be put to sleep on Monday I confess I didn’t have any more sympathy for him than he had for me. His comment that really got my goat was when he asked me "Do you like your job?" If I didn’t like my job then I wouldn’t still be in it after 7 years. The truth is I do love my job. The thing I hate is his stinking attitude. 4. Was she hoping I’d say something obviously dreadful, like cancer?
I doubt she was hoping that. I heard somewhere that when you’re given the choice of assuming someone’s motives are based in ignorance or malice, ignorance is almost always the more credible alternative. I shouldn’t make apologies for that lady, but I strongly suspect that she just didn’t understand how her words were going to affect you. — Nathan Engle Electron Juggler Indiana University Dept of Psychology "Some Assembly Required"
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