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I’d like to hear from some people like me. I’m 46,female,married,have 3 kids all grown up now, and suffer daily.
HI!< waving moderate to severe RA here, female, 44 with a family of 3 kids, but they are still young. I am on antibiotic treatment for RA, and holding my own pretty well with it, but I do still have some toes with damage from the early days and a couple of fingers joints that are not responding as well as the rest of me. I can relate, and am looking forward to getting to know you. Liz G.
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PS. Im 49 but have had RA for nearly 21 years. No one could tell until a few years ago when my hands went completely ’south’ and now that they have been repaired its hard to tell unless you are paying attention.
Hi johnie, I wonder if you would let me know how well your hands function since being repaired. Can you close your hand all the way or just part of the way? I’m afraid to get surgery on my hands because a finger joint replacement made my hand less functional. Thanks, Linda T.
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Hi! I am 32. DX with RA at 28….I begin showing symptoms at 25, shortly after I got married. I tell Rich that he got me after the warranty expired. :O) I had very aggressive RA for 2 years and I stupidly refused to take DMARD in hope of getting pregnant. When I came to my senses, I had damage in my feet and slight turning of my fingers…ruined knees and knuckles that look like the outline of the Rocky Mountains. The reader’s digest version of this tale is that Rich and I adopted a beautiful baby girl~refered to as the Princess of the Puddle~ who has lots of Cyber Aunts and Uncles in ASA. I am sorry you had to join us, but this is a place full of wonderful people! Amy I live in a world of mystery and intrigue. I teach kindergarten. Come see the "Princess of the Puddle" at http://hometown.aol.com/lkgoddess/indexhtml.html
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Hi Debbie, Welcome to ASA. I’m 61, but have had RA since I was 29. For years, the damage didn’t show even though I was in a lot of pain. That’s why you need this support group. Only those who have arthritis can understand what you are living with. I am doing pretty well now on gold shots and Arava together, but have considerable damage in spite of years of gold shots. This is a very exciting time for us with so many new treatments now and in the future. This is a very supportive group, and many of the members are young, so you will fit right in. Best wishes, Linda T. PS: I’m new to the internet too.
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – I’d like to hear from some people like me. I’m 46,female,married,have 3 kids all grown up now, and suffer daily. I take Embrel now ( 19 monthes ) I do ok. But to look at me I look healthy. You have to look at my deformed fingers to tell. I just found this groop on my new web tv. I’m new at this stuff but it helps kill time, and it’s fun..I would enjoy hearing from you if you can relate to me. I don’t mean to discriminate but I just don’t know anyone as young as me,thats as bad as I am.. Debbie.
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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – I would be interested in seeing the photos, johnie, because your right hand before surgery sounds like my right hand now. I am going to see a hand surgeon one of these days, but I’m going to ask him a lot of questions before deciding on anything. Thanks for your response. Linda T. Hi johnie, I wonder if you would let me know how well your hands function since being repaired. Can you close your hand all the way or just part of the way? I’m afraid to get surgery on my hands because a finger joint replacement made my hand less functional. Linda, I had all the MIP’s relaced in my right hand with a complete rebuild of the wrist including a tendon move(took the little tendon by the thumb and moved it over to the little finger cause that tendon was worn down to threads). It all works. Before surgery my right fingers were at a 90 degree angle to my hand and now they are straight and easily 85% functional. I can close my fist to around 80-85% which is good enough for me. They both are extremely strong and I can shake hands with all but the real vise-grip maniacs. My left hand was different. Jus 2 MIP’s were relaced and the other two cleaned out. The wrist was completely collapsed and had to be fused and has been an easy adjustment to make. I would recommend it to anyone losing function and experiencing pain especially if they could get my surgeon//Dr. Margolis here in Tucson. He is a keeper. I have photos before and after that I can send as jpegs if you would like to see. johnie
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Wow — my hand surgeon’s name is Dr. Margles and he is in the Boston area. For some reason that struck me as funny. Dr. Margles is a keeper as well. Duckie – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – ….. especially if they could get my surgeon//Dr. Margolis here in Tucson. He is a keeper. I have photos before and after that I can send as jpegs if you would like to see. johnie
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I’d like to hear from some people like me. I’m 46,female,married,have 3 kids all grown up now, and suffer daily. I take Embrel now ( 19 monthes ) I do ok. But to look at me I look healthy. You have to look at my deformed fingers to tell. I just found this groop on my new web tv. I’m new at this stuff but it helps kill time, and it’s fun..I would enjoy hearing from you if you can relate to me. I don’t mean to discriminate but I just don’t know anyone as young as me,thats as bad as I am.. Debbie.
Hi Debbie, I’m 41, female, with RA recently diagnosed (but had Fibromyalgia diagnosed 3 years ago). I took Arava last summer and it worked wonders, but rotted out my stomach, so now I’ve been on methotrexate for three months and it helps some, but I still fell pretty stiff and sore and EXHAUSTED! I’m on LT disability from previous employer now and it’s been pretty rough as I used to be type A personality, working no matter how sick, etc. But I’m finally accepting and maybe even sometimes actually…enjoying… not being superwoman. take care! -kk
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Linda, I’ll clean them up a bit and send them to you tommorrow sometime. johnie – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – I would be interested in seeing the photos, johnie, because your right hand before surgery sounds like my right hand now. I am going to see a hand surgeon one of these days, but I’m going to ask him a lot of questions before deciding on anything. Thanks for your response. Linda T. Hi johnie, I wonder if you would let me know how well your hands function since being repaired. Can you close your hand all the way or just part of the way? I’m afraid to get surgery on my hands because a finger joint replacement made my hand less functional. Linda, I had all the MIP’s relaced in my right hand with a complete rebuild of the wrist including a tendon move(took the little tendon by the thumb and moved it over to the little finger cause that tendon was worn down to threads). It all works. Before surgery my right fingers were at a 90 degree angle to my hand and now they are straight and easily 85% functional. I can close my fist to around 80-85% which is good enough for me. They both are extremely strong and I can shake hands with all but the real vise-grip maniacs. My left hand was different. Jus 2 MIP’s were relaced and the other two cleaned out. The wrist was completely collapsed and had to be fused and has been an easy adjustment to make. I would recommend it to anyone losing function and experiencing pain especially if they could get my surgeon//Dr. Margolis here in Tucson. He is a keeper. I have photos before and after that I can send as jpegs if you would like to see. johnie
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Debbie, Hi! I’m 37 and was diagnosed with RA 16 years ago. I’m on Enbrel and MTX and, like you it’s my fingers that "give it away". Sounds like we’ve been on Enbrel for about the same amount of time, too. Right now, I’m in my first flare in a looooooong time and I’m not handling it very well. My RD put me on a prednisone zap (6 days, starting at 30 mg and decreasing 5 mg each day) and that’s pretty much had no good effect. Then, yesterday I did a really dumb thing. I was so frustrated from this miserably diseased body of mine that I decided to "show it who is in charge". I went for a 2 mile walk on my treadmill, bad ankles & all. And that just served to remind me that it’s the disease that’s in charge. RA stinks. But ASA is a great place to be! Meg
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – I’d like to hear from some people like me. I’m 46,female,married,have 3 kids all grown up now, and suffer daily. I take Embrel now ( 19 monthes ) I do ok. But to look at me I look healthy. You have to look at my deformed fingers to tell. I just found this groop on my new web tv. I’m new at this stuff but it helps kill time, and it’s fun..I would enjoy hearing from you if you can relate to me. I don’t mean to discriminate but I just don’t know anyone as young as me,thats as bad as I am.. Debbie.
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Hi Debbie, Glad you found this group. There’s a great group of people here
My brother, now 44, was diagnosed with RA when he was around 22, still in university. He’s got what his doctor calls galloping RA. He had to retire from teaching at 35; married with 2 children, he’s a stay at home kinda guy – a bit of an academic. I, on the other hand, am only slightly nutz as I age gracefully with fibromyalgia among other things. You’ll find all kinds of opinions on all manner of things with this group, with an occasional recipe thrown in from time to time. Fruitcake, anyone? Cheers! Carla http://www.brunnet.net/terrier I’d like to hear from some people like me. I’m 46,female,married,have 3 kids all grown up now, and suffer daily. I take Embrel now ( 19 monthes ) I do ok. But to look at me I look healthy. You have to look at my deformed fingers to tell. I just found this groop on my new web tv. I’m new at this stuff but it helps kill time, and it’s fun..I would enjoy hearing from you if you can relate to me. I don’t mean to discriminate but I just don’t know anyone as young as me,thats as bad as I am.. Debbie.
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I would be interested in seeing the photos, johnie, because your right hand before surgery sounds like my right hand now. I am going to see a hand surgeon one of these days, but I’m going to ask him a lot of questions before deciding on anything. Thanks for your response. Linda T.
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Hi johnie, I wonder if you would let me know how well your hands function since being repaired. Can you close your hand all the way or just part of the way? I’m afraid to get surgery on my hands because a finger joint replacement made my hand less functional. Linda, I had all the MIP’s relaced in my right hand with a complete rebuild of the wrist including a tendon move(took the little tendon by the thumb and moved it over to the little finger cause that tendon was worn down to threads). It all works. Before surgery my right fingers were at a 90 degree angle to my hand and now they are straight and easily 85% functional. I can close my fist to around 80-85% which is good enough for me. They both are extremely strong and I can shake hands with all but the real vise-grip maniacs. My left hand was different. Jus 2 MIP’s were relaced and the other two cleaned out. The wrist was completely collapsed and had to be fused and has been an easy adjustment to make. I would recommend it to anyone losing function and experiencing pain especially if they could get my surgeon//Dr. Margolis here in Tucson. He is a keeper. I have photos before and after that I can send as jpegs if you would like to see. johnie
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Hi Debbie, Im Jennifer, Im 29 was diagnosed when I was 19. I have a rare form like what Yolan mentioned that has some symptoms of Lupus. You will find that the majority of people with RA are your age and younger. Mine is under control now with Enbrel. I took plaquenil, gold shots, prednisone, all types of Nsaids, then methotrexate. I had my first hip replacement at 22, then 2 revisions when I was 28. Glad you found the group Still’s Disease Information http://www.stillsdisease.org
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Welcome out of the bushes Debbie. I am 52 and most of my surgery was done before age 46 so do I count? Anyway, there will more along to welcome you. Duckie – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – I’d like to hear from some people like me. I’m 46,female,married,have 3 kids all grown up now, and suffer daily. I take Embrel now ( 19 monthes ) I do ok. But to look at me I look healthy. You have to look at my deformed fingers to tell. I just found this groop on my new web tv. I’m new at this stuff but it helps kill time, and it’s fun..I would enjoy hearing from you if you can relate to me. I don’t mean to discriminate but I just don’t know anyone as young as me,thats as bad as I am.. Debbie.
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Hi johnie, I wonder if you would let me know how well your hands function since being repaired. Can you close your hand all the way or just part of the way? I’m afraid to get surgery on my hands because a finger joint replacement made my hand less functional.
Linda, I had all the MIP’s relaced in my right hand with a complete rebuild of the wrist including a tendon move(took the little tendon by the thumb and moved it over to the little finger cause that tendon was worn down to threads). It all works. Before surgery my right fingers were at a 90 degree angle to my hand and now they are straight and easily 85% functional. I can close my fist to around 80-85% which is good enough for me. They both are extremely strong and I can shake hands with all but the real vise-grip maniacs. My left hand was different. Jus 2 MIP’s were relaced and the other two cleaned out. The wrist was completely collapsed and had to be fused and has been an easy adjustment to make. I would recommend it to anyone losing function and experiencing pain especially if they could get my surgeon//Dr. Margolis here in Tucson. He is a keeper. I have photos before and after that I can send as jpegs if you would like to see. johnie
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I’d like to hear from some people like me. I’m 46,female,married,have 3 kids all grown up now, and suffer daily. I take Embrel now ( 19 monthes ) I do ok. But to look at me I look healthy. You have to look at my deformed fingers to tell. I just found this groop on my new web tv. I’m new at this stuff but it helps kill time, and it’s fun..I would enjoy hearing from you if you can relate to me. I don’t mean to discriminate but I just don’t know anyone as young as me,thats as bad as I am.. Debbie.
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Debbie, Actually when I was your age I was a lot worse than I am now… so there’s hope.
I take the Enbrel with MTX. I was post menapausal by 42, they said because of th RA, so I also take Fosamax and Estrogen replacement treatment. At one point, I lost 35 pounds. It’s taken about 5 years to get most of it back except 10 pounds. I think that must have been muscle. I’ve had a shoulder replacement and that’s pretty good now. Wednesday I see the orthopedic surgeon who specializes in hands. I have 2 others (one for the shoulders, one for the knees). I think they will do a little work on those hands but I’ve got a computer conference in January, so they will have to wait until that’s done. I’m holding off on the knees as long as I can but the hands are not good to wait on. Welcome to the group. I’m 50 and want to bugaloo down funky broadway … soon I hope. Marge
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – I’d like to hear from some people like me. I’m 46,female,married,have 3 kids all grown up now, and suffer daily. I take Embrel now ( 19 monthes ) I do ok. But to look at me I look healthy. You have to look at my deformed fingers to tell. I just found this groop on my new web tv. I’m new at this stuff but it helps kill time, and it’s fun..I would enjoy hearing from you if you can relate to me. I don’t mean to discriminate but I just don’t know anyone as young as me,thats as bad as I am.. Debbie.
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Debbie, Welcome to the site!!! Sorry that you have to join us all. My name is Donna G (the G is because there is another Donna also on this site), I am 39, but was about 36 when I was diagnosed with rhuematoid arthritis. I have been told by my rhuematologist that I have quite severe arthritis, and yet I do not have a great deal of outward signs (yet) of having this disease. I do have joint damage in a number of joints, and also have some lung damage from the disease. These, of course, are all things that no one can see on the outside. I have some beginning deformity in some of my fingers, but otherwise you would not know that I have the RA unless you see how I walk and move in the mornings or during a major flare. This group is a wonderful place to find support! You will gain much knowledge and many new friends if you stick around here!!! There are others out there that have some form of arthritis, that are as young as you. Don’t let age be an issue, as people of all ages and from every corner of the world come to this site! Please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers!!! Please also rest in the knowledge that you’ve found a wonderful place to visit, share, vent, ask questions, etc, etc. Hope you are able to enjoy the blessed holiday season that is upon us!!! Donna G : )
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Hi Debbie, I am 46 now, I was diagnosed when I was 41 and the first 3 years I was doing relatively well. There were no outer signs than just the deformity of my hands. I have a very rare form of RA, combined with a lot of symtoms (sp?) of SLE. I do have some organ damage. Due to prednisone I have a very healthy look. Blushing face. But I just can walk a few steps and my hands, arms and shoulders are gving me a lot of problems. I just to think that quiting work would end my life, but I found new hobbies and most of the time I am feeling quit happy with what I am and what I have. I have lots of trouble with medicine. I tried them all from salazopyrine to gold, from plaquenil to ciclosporine and arava too. Now I am waiting to get Enbrel or Remicade. But in the Netherlands there is a very big shortage. So I am on a wating list. This group is wonderfull. Lots of different people here where you can relate with. So think positive and stay with us Yolan – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – I’d like to hear from some people like me. I’m 46,female,married,have 3 kids all grown up now, and suffer daily. I take Embrel now ( 19 monthes ) I do ok. But to look at me I look healthy. You have to look at my deformed fingers to tell. I just found this groop on my new web tv. I’m new at this stuff but it helps kill time, and it’s fun..I would enjoy hearing from you if you can relate to me. I don’t mean to discriminate but I just don’t know anyone as young as me,thats as bad as I am.. Debbie.
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hi there Debbie, well i’m not quite in the same age group as you guys, but i’m still not one of the "older" generation that has Arthur, i’m 22 in January and have had Arthur for 6 years now, and apart from the weight gain from prednisone plus the hidden hard times with walking, moving things, opening, lifting things etc, nup, ya cant see anything wrong with me either.. hehe also the "sausage" fingers plus the odd lump and bump of fluid that turns up kinda shows..hrmmms plus the ongoing pleurisy, rashes etc.. damn, the more ya talk about these things the worse ya feel aye..time to go complain to my mum i think
good luck.. Victoria.
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Hi Debbie, I’m 35 and have been dealing with this sh*t for 5 years. You’ll find that there are a lot of us and many much younger. Consider yourself lucky it didn’t hit when you were much younger. ~Krissy See my pond: http://members.aol.com/KrissyJo/ponds.html Akron, Ohio http://arthritisinsight.com Knowledge is power…support is essential.
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Diagnosed with RA and SLE at 23 and I’m 34 now. My twin sister was diagnosed with SLE at 17 and lived to be 20. Kendall F. Stratton III Fort Fairfield, Maine USA http://home.maine.rr.com/k3 "Our love for each other may not be explained We live in a world where tears must fall like rain Most of us don’t wish to cause each other pain" – Gordon Lightfoot – Heaven Help the Devil – Copyright (c) 1982
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Hi Debbie, I’m 43 now and was diagnosed at age 25. It’s been a long haul and joint damage has been done. But, the same as you (and most of us here), noone can tell by looking at me that I have RA, much less guess for how many years. That’s why this place is so great…we all understand. Sorry you had to, but, glad you found us : ) Be well, Patty
*~A friend is someone who reaches out for your hand, and touches your heart.~*
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Hi Debbie, I come under the 46 barrier!! I’m 40 male and have RA. I was diagnosed in Mar 99. I’m currently on MTX and Pred when required. Regards Andy M.. [Lincoln(UK)] – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – hi there Debbie, well i’m not quite in the same age group as you guys, but i’m still not one of the "older" generation that has Arthur, i’m 22 in January and have had Arthur for 6 years now, and apart from the weight gain from prednisone plus the hidden hard times with walking, moving things, opening, lifting things etc, nup, ya cant see anything wrong with me either.. hehe also the "sausage" fingers plus the odd lump and bump of fluid that turns up kinda shows..hrmmms plus the ongoing pleurisy, rashes etc.. damn, the more ya talk about these things the worse ya feel aye..time to go complain to my mum i think
good luck.. Victoria. I’d like to hear from some people like me. I’m 46,female,married,have 3 kids all grown up now, and suffer daily. I take Embrel now ( 19 monthes ) I do ok. But to look at me I look healthy. You have to look at my deformed fingers to tell. I just found this groop on my new web tv. I’m new at this stuff but it helps kill time, and it’s fun..I would enjoy hearing from you if you can relate to me. I don’t mean to discriminate but I just don’t know anyone as young as me,thats as bad as I am.. Debbie.
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Debbie, I dont know what part of the country you live in but herer is a website run by a great guy here in Tucson that list meeting and events for people 18 to 50 in different parts of the country. It is expanding at a slow rate but expanding nonetheless. He will also advise as to how to start a local group. Getting together with others that share the same issues arthur dumps on us can be liberating and extremely helpful sometimes. Here is the URL and welcome to ASA. http://www.arthritisjoints.com johnie PS. Im 49 but have had RA for nearly 21 years. No one could tell until a few years ago when my hands went completely ’south’ and now that they have been repaired its hard to tell unless you are paying attention. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – I’d like to hear from some people like me. I’m 46,female,married,have 3 kids all grown up now, and suffer daily. I take Embrel now ( 19 monthes ) I do ok. But to look at me I look healthy. You have to look at my deformed fingers to tell. I just found this groop on my new web tv. I’m new at this stuff but it helps kill time, and it’s fun..I would enjoy hearing from you if you can relate to me. I don’t mean to discriminate but I just don’t know anyone as young as me,thats as bad as I am.. Debbie.
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Hi, Debbie… although I am now 51, my PA (psoriatic arthritis, related to the skin disease psoriasis, but very similar to RA) was first officially diagnosed at 42, although I probably had it for about 5 years or so before that. You might check with the Arthritis Foundation about their "Arthritis in Prime Time" conferences that are held once a year. If I remember, the last time I attended there were about 2,000 people attending and many researchers, rheumatologists, physical therapists, and others involved with workshops and seminars and a nice dinner. The ones I attended were in southern California, but I suspect there may be others in other parts of the country. See: http://www.arthritis.org/ to find more information, or contact them in your local area by asking information for a telephone number. They also have monthly meetings for younger people with arthritis that you may find helpful. Best regards,
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